Why is it that we are so eager to forgive and forget others, treat them with compassion and understanding, while at the same time we are being so hard on ourselves about very little thing we think or do?
That’s the first thought that crossed my mind, this morning, after hanging up, the phone with one of my most cherished friends.
She is going through some really though times and even though, she is doing her best to maintain some sort of balance, she more often than not, finds herself tangled in doubt, blame and guilt.
And she is not the only one.
That’s the first thought that crossed my mind, this morning, after hanging up, the phone with one of my most cherished friends.
She is going through some really though times and even though, she is doing her best to maintain some sort of balance, she more often than not, finds herself tangled in doubt, blame and guilt.
And she is not the only one.
I too, have found myself in similar situations, harshly judging my thoughts, decisions and actions but over the years I discovered a few tricks to keep myself, on the right track.
Here is what works for me:
1. Avoiding as many “shoulds” as possible. Following my inner wisdom and trusting my intuition and hunches. - This usually keeps me out of trouble, but doesn’t always work, mostly because over the years I somehow managed to burry myself under more “shoulds” than I ever thought possible. True Story.
2. Reminding myself that I am a human being. I have my strengths but I also have my limitations. I do not need to be perfect but I do need to accept myself unconditionally. Just like I accept my friends and family.
3. Repeating this powerful affirmation from the TakeTen Affirmation Pack “I always treat myself as I would my best friend with a positive attitude, love and understanding.” Of course any self-empowering affirmation will do just fine, but I find this one extremely helpful.
Here is what works for me:
1. Avoiding as many “shoulds” as possible. Following my inner wisdom and trusting my intuition and hunches. - This usually keeps me out of trouble, but doesn’t always work, mostly because over the years I somehow managed to burry myself under more “shoulds” than I ever thought possible. True Story.
2. Reminding myself that I am a human being. I have my strengths but I also have my limitations. I do not need to be perfect but I do need to accept myself unconditionally. Just like I accept my friends and family.
3. Repeating this powerful affirmation from the TakeTen Affirmation Pack “I always treat myself as I would my best friend with a positive attitude, love and understanding.” Of course any self-empowering affirmation will do just fine, but I find this one extremely helpful.
Powerful Affirmation by TakeTen / I always treat myself as I would my best friend with a positive attitude, love and understanding.
4. Taking Ten. Taking some time to distance myself from anything that is distorting my point of view. Taking a few breaths. Changing my perspective. Honestly accessing the situation, as someone less emotionally involved would have.
5. Act. Act. Act. When something doesn’t feel right, instead of blaming myself for it, I simply act on it. Change it. Turn it into something I can feel comfortable with.
Have you aver viewed yourself in a more critical way than you would like? What helped you through it?
Much Love,
Nichole
5. Act. Act. Act. When something doesn’t feel right, instead of blaming myself for it, I simply act on it. Change it. Turn it into something I can feel comfortable with.
Have you aver viewed yourself in a more critical way than you would like? What helped you through it?
Much Love,
Nichole
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