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HOW to attract the right kind of people TO your life | MAKING Meaningful Connections

10/20/2014

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Being in a toxic relationship, whether strictly platonic, professional or romantic, can leave you feeling drained, worn out and with a huge appetite for greasy burgers and loaded pizzas. 

I know, because I’ve spend a great part of my life, in toxic environments and toxic relationships of all kinds, enough to know what a waste of time and energy that is, every single time. 


I remember going to work everyday, with an uneasy feeling and in the pit of my stomach, I knew that it wasn’t the work itself that brought me that feeling but the people, the toxic people that polluted my day with their toxicity.

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But was it just my professional environment that was infested with this poisonous, negative energy? Sadly enough it wasn’t. Even a night with a few of my “friends” was enough to literally drain me of energy and return home feeling exhausted and worn out.

Does that sound like you?

If it does, then I have one piece of advice for you. Free yourself from destructive relationships. Give yourself permission to value your well-being, more than all the MUSTs and SHOULDs of this world combined and protect yourself from unsupportive, judgemental, draining people.

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So, what happens after you spring clean your life from toxic people? 

Naturally, you initially take some time to properly mourn for your loss and to endure the pain you order even more pizza and greasy burgers and when that doesn’t help, you simply pull the duvet over your head and sit silently waiting for a miracle to happen hoping that one day you’ll wake up surrounded by loving, positive people that make you feel good and energise you.

I have bad new and good news, for you, cinderella. 

Loving, supportive people will never find you, as long as you’re hiding under the covers but you can attract the right kind of people, into your life. 

“But how?” You ask. “Obviously I made a lousy job the first time around. Maybe I deserve to spend the rest of my life in solitude, watching bad TV and eating Doritos for dinner.”

To that I say NO. What you deserve is to be surrounded with wonderful, supportive people who help you grow and be happy. Period. 

Here are some easy steps on how to attract the right kind of people into your life.


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1. Know WHO you are and WHAT you like.  Get some time to know yourself better. How do you like to spend your time? What are your likes & dislikes? What makes your heart sing? Are you into sports, art or both? What excites you? Is it politics or self-development? Rediscover yourself, your passions, your values, your dreams and that will surely attract like-minded people into your life, people with whom you can connect in many different levels.

2. LOVE yourself.  I can’t stress the importance of this step enough. How can you expect to attract the right people into your life when you feel rejected, unwanted and unloved by non other but yourself. Love yourself fearlessly. Practice self compassion, indulge in some serious self-care and fall in love with yourself. 

3. BE yourself.  Do not try to hide your true nature. If you do, the right people will have a really hard time finding you. How are you ever going to attract the people who sing your song, preach your sermon and speak your language, when you spend your days being someone else than who you truly are. Be yourself, unapologetically, besides, everyone else, is already taken.

We all need to belong. 

That doesn’t necessarily mean settling for second best, or hiding your uniqueness under carefully crafted socially acceptable personas. 

So, learn to accept and love yourself for who you are, when all the labels are off and let your personality shine so bright that like-minded people are drawn to you like a magnet.

How do you attract the right people to your life? Let me know in the comments below. 
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8 Comments
Caylie Price link
10/21/2014 10:24:51 am

Nichole, I love these three steps. They are so simple but boy can they be hard to implement if you're a little done on confidence. Keep spreading the message though. As you say, we all deserve to be surrounded with wonderful, supportive people who help us grow and be happy.

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Melissa link
10/21/2014 11:05:32 am

Great tips! I love all 3. What great points to remind ourselves of every day. Thanks.

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Brenda link
10/23/2014 10:52:32 am

Nichole, I've ended a few toxic relationships in the past and yes, you're right, at first, you even miss them. Years later though, its refreshing to only have supportive people around you. Great post.

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Silvia link
10/25/2014 04:00:14 am

Nicole, love that your approach is from the inside out. Of course it is! That's were wisdom is. That's where lasting solutions are found. You know the saying...when the student (mind) is ready...the teacher (our mighty companions) will appear!

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Lacy link
10/27/2014 01:13:49 am

Somehow, I attracted toxic work environments for YEARS! It wasn't until I started working for myself that I finally found freedom from those damaging relationships.

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Anne Omland link
10/30/2014 10:47:31 pm

Great article Nichole! I couldn't agree more with you. When I met my husband we agreed on "full disclosure"- to fully be ourselves because you can't keep up the fake long term (that would be exhausting!). It's such a good lesson though, one I think about all the time when working with clients, writing, etc. Thanks for the reminder!

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Beth K. Bedbury
10/31/2014 01:23:45 am

I've been in the ugh I have to go to work place before. It was so awful and soul sucking without me even realizing it. All I knew is I didn't want to be in that situation again. Those tips are golden.

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