And I know that somedays it just doesn't feel like that’s truth, and trust me I have days like that too, in fact we all do, but that is the truth. 

You are enough. 
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Gremlin You, Gremlin Me and our First Weekly Challenge, Part I
Gremlin You, Gremlin Me Part II | Beating Your Inner Critic to Submission
Gremlin You, Gremlin Me Part III | Identifying Your Inner Critic
Getting Unstuck 101 | Stop the Mind Chatter, Ask the Right Questions. 

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During my coaching practice I have found that women, in particular, often seem to believe that asking directly for the things they want is inappropriate, rude or even unecessary and so they constantly suppress their needs {or dare I say... -desires?}, until they reach their breaking point.

Of course the fact that we live in a world in which a man who is bold and asks for what he wants is considered a go getter, whereas a woman who uses similar tactics is often called the dreaded B word, doesn't help either. 

But, there comes a time in a one's life when hoping is no longer adequate and we must begin to ask for what we want. Even if that means getting a No for an answer. After all, we miss of the shots we don't take, right? 

1. Know Exactly What You Want.  Whether it's that long deserved raise, or a hug from your significant other, it is important to know exactly what it is that you want. When you do finally get around to the asking, be specific. Make sure you are clear, concise and directly to the point. Stuttering, stammering, hemming and hawing, these are all huge no-nos.  

2. Ask The Right Person For What You Want.  All of the forceful asking in the world means nothing if it is not properly focused. When thinking about exactly what it is that you want, it is important to also figure out exactly who it is you should be asking. By pinpointing the person who is able to deliver what you need, saves you valuable time and energy.

3. Choose The Time And Place.  This is one of the most underrated elements to making a successful request. Asking a person for something while they are busy, stressed out or not in a position to take you seriously will severely diminish your success rate. Once you've been able to decide on who needs to be asked, it is just as important to figure out when and where they should be asked.

4. Make Your Request Simple.  There is no need to get bogged down in too many details or try to over explain yourself. Get right down to brass tacks and be direct. This request is all about you, not what the person has or hasn't done for you in the past. This is all about you owning your feelings, acknowledging your needs and being willing to deal with the consequences of your request. 

5. Prepare Yourself For A Negative Response.  In a perfect world, a well thought out, reasonable request would lead to you getting what you requested. Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world, so be sure that you are ready to hear the word "no". This is not a negative commentary on you as a person, and should not diminish your desire to continue asking for what you want. Besides...

So, what do YOU really want? What do you need to claim, today?
Is it raising your rates?  Asking that special someone on a date? Requesting a favour from a friend? Asking your boss for a raise? Whatever it is, you should go for it — never be afraid to ask for what you want!

But what if I don't know what I want? 
I'm glad you asked! 

If you are stuck in the thinking loop, not knowing exactly what it is that you want and need someone to hold your hand & unravel the knots in your brain and help you become clear, focused and on your way, I have just the thing for you.

I've opened up my calendar to offer a limited number of 60 Shades of Clarity Sessions through October. So if the time is perfect for you to learn what specific, actionable steps you can take, to untangle the tightest knot in your life or business, in just one call, click here to book your session, with me and get from stressed to action, in 60 minutes or less! 

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I used to be one of those people. Apart from the more traditional new year resolutions, I also did a new list, at the beginning of Spring, on my birthday and after my summer vay-cay {talk about an organisation freak!}. Every chance I got, I used it  to  set new goals of what needed to get done, of things to achieve, of milestones to reach. My God, I feel exhausted even writing about it. 

Being a life coach myself, I know full well that goals are meant to fire you up, get you excited and motivated to accomplish them. I teach people how to set goals, I get paid to do so, yet a day after my birthday this year,  that's what I jotted down:

☞Grow my subscriber list by 25% (by the way, you can subscribe by following the link here)
☞Complete the 21 day Challenge Project and run a version of it.
☞Create an auto-responder series for new subscribers.

And then it hit me. These were not MY goals. This was a list of business shoulds, I didn't need to grow my list, if anything I needed to better connect with the people already on it. 

So I crossed those off and started writing again. This time from the heart. I changed my questions from “what needs to get done” to “how do I want to feel”, “who do I want to become”, “why is that important” and that's what I came up with:

That's it. I only have one goal on my list, for the next 6 months and everything I do during my day, springs from that one goal. How?

Well, I just took some time to brainstorm on how I could invite more happiness into my life. So, it simply made sense to infuse my days with more of everything that makes me happy and that's how the idea of creating my very own "Hell Yeah!" list was born.

I created a list that includes 30 different things that make me feel, blissful, at ease, balanced, joyful and yes, HAPPY and now, not a day goes by without me bringing at least one of the things on my list, into my daily routine. Some days I even go for 6 or 9 of them. 

Would I’ve ever found the time and determination to implement 6 to 9 different strategies to grow my subscribers list, in a day? NO, no I wouldn’t. See the difference?

Since being happy, is MY goal, because it means something to ME, that’s why I'm so fired up and inspired to take action, to make time to fit happiness into my schedule, to make it a priority and a part of my daily routine.

And that's why I know that come February I will be a happier person. 

So, if you are like me and are ready to set your goals for the season, make sure those goals are actually goals you care about. Make them goals that make your heart beat a little faster, goals that put a smile on your face. This September, make a ‘Hell Yeah!’ list instead. 

Are you ready to set exciting and meaningful goals? 
I’m dying to know what's on your list, let me know in the comments below. 
You never know who you might inspire with your list...

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I have been using this game with my clients for over a year now and I can promise you, that it works like a charm! I have people calling me months after they’ve played the game, excited about all the things they managed to attract, manifest or consciously bring into their lives, things they put on their Billionaire Game list, months ago, from great job opportunities to ah-mazing gifts or unexpected vacations. I like to think of it as a big magnet pulling me in the right direction.

So what do you say? Are you ready to create your billionaire list?

To play the game, all you have to do is take some time, away from distractions, ideally outside your house or office, in a place that makes you feel relaxed, like your local Starbucks cafe or your favourite  brunch place, grab a pen and write down 100 things you want to be, do or have in your life. 

It really is that simple. 

YOU WILL NEED
An hour of your time, the Billionaire Game play-sheet and a pen, oh and a lot of imagination. 

THE RULES
The Billionaire Game only has two rules. 

Are you game?
I sure hope so!

>>> Download your Billionaire Game PlaySheet and lets get rolling. <<<

100 things might not sound like a lot now, but after putting down the first 20 maybe 30 items on your list, you might feel stuck or totally uninspired. No worries, just listen to some music, pour yourself a cup of tea or a glass of wine, take a walk or dance for a few minutes. And if you still need more inspiration, visit pinterest and search for “bucket list” or “billionaire lifestyle” boards. Get inspired and then come back and continue working on your list.

Once you have your list you will feel inspired, and elevated. You might even realise there are things on your list that you could cross off, in less than a week or even sooner. How good does that feel?

In last pages of your PlaySheet you will find instructions on how to make the best of your Billionaire List and take the exercise one step further. 

And of course as always I would love, love to hear from you. 
And if you enjoyed playing the billionaire game, why don’t you share it with your friends?

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Other Posts You Might Love:
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Happiness | 5 Tips to help you work your way from grumpy to happy
Back to the Basics | The Importance of Picking your Battles in Everyday Life
Overcoming the Fear of Failure | How I Rejected the Illusions of Fear and you can too

About Me

Hi, I'm Nichole, and I am a personal motivator and coach, passionate about reigniting the spark in people both in life and business. My specialty? Getting people to ACT by breaking anything down, into to the next action! 

I work with passion driven women to help them set their priorities straight and and thrive in life and business, on their own terms.

Connect with me on Facebook or email me at [email protected]

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Before accepting this as your new normal, I have a suggestion for you. A super easy technique, I use with all my clients, to get them unstuck, in just seconds, by interrupting their the mental chatter and changing their perspective, from victim to hero!

WARNING! Major Breakthrough Coming Up!

Let me say that, one more time. 

Rephrase your worry into an empowering question.

When your inner critic is hard at work, creating drama, sabotaging your growth and turning up the volume of negative mind chatter, all you have to do is take a breather to interrupt the pity party, ask yourself one simple question and then wait for your inner guru to take charge and help you see possibility where there was none. Then focus on that one, simple next step, in front of you and take action.  That’s it. Getting unstuck 101.

Let’s see how it works with one of the paralysing thoughts above, shall we?

It’s Monday morning and you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed thinking “I hate my job, my boss does not appreciate what I do, the money aren’t enough etc” and before you know it, you are literally spiraling into a depressed state and your whole day is ruined.  

Luckily enough, you now have a remarkable technique, right at your fingertips! 

So, after noticing the negative mind chatter, give yourself a few minutes to take 3-5 deep breaths and then rephrase what your inner gremlin just said into an empowering question, such as “What is the first thing I could do today, that will get me closer to finding a new job, that I would love and in which I will feel appreciated and financially secure?” 

And then wait. 

It might take a few seconds or a few minutes but the answer will come, in the form of some sort of action or another and instead of spiralling into self-doubt you will now have a chance  to actually deal with the challenge itself by taking ACTION. Action creates the momentum you need, to get to the next step! 

It’s easy to remember, simple to apply and will transform the way you experience life’s hiccups. 
Give it a try, it will amaze you.

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I’d love to hear from you.
What empowering question can you use to get you unstuck, today? 

Remember, your comment might inspire someone else to take action and get unstuck too, so please share your thoughts with us.

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Other Posts You Might Love:
Gremlin You, Gremlin Me and our First Weekly Challenge, Part I
Gremlin You, Gremlin Me Part II | Beating Your Inner Critic to Submission
Gremlin You, Gremlin Me Part III | Identifying Your Inner Critic
Overcoming the Fear of Failure | How I Rejected the Illusions of Fear and you can too

About Me

Hi, I'm Nichole, and I am a personal motivator and coach, passionate about reigniting the spark in people both in life and business. My specialty? Getting people to ACT by breaking anything down, into to the next action! 

I work with passion driven women to help them set their priorities straight and and thrive in life and business, on their own terms.

Connect with me on Facebook or email me at [email protected]

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And even though criticism is inevitable in every aspect of your life, in the competitive business arena, some people will do anything to get ahead, even if that means throwing you under the bus to get there. 

So, the next time you are being criticised, instead of feeling hurt, angry or overwhelmed, try using the following tips, to help you handle conflict with grace!

During the last decade, or so, being in love with myself, has taken on, a new meaning for me. Selfish as it may sound, the realisation has sunk in, that to love myself is the first step in building my confidence and the courage needed to face the world and come out, not only unscathed, but also successful in everything I do. 

Eat that George!

How can I be sure that it is actually my inner critic the one stopping me from moving forward, telling me this isn’t going to work out and not the voice of reason?

And that was my first question too, when I first started spotting that little voice, I didn’t even know directed my every action and that is why I am really excited to be sharing with you, these 5 Tips to help you recognize your inner critic.

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